But here is the really big reason: Cynicism.
From that follows Frustration.
a feeling of dissatisfaction, often accompanied by anxiety or depression, resulting from unfulfilled needs or unresolved problems.
(one definition)
Below are my exact feelings about my "fellow 'Murcans", mostly the ones here in the so-called heartland:
—Synonyms
1, 3. Cynical, pessimistic, sarcastic, satirical imply holding a low opinion of humanity. Cynical suggests a disbelief in the sincerity of human motives
(Ref.)
I am sure I'll get over it, again. But each time I go through this it takes longer to have great expectations or even positive expectations.
Tao